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Week 14: Hardly Sprinting, but Enjoying the Journey

I achieved 55 out of 58 points this week. My “Sprint” has taught me some key distrinctions, but the journey is hardly over as I realize how much better I can become by being more present to the most important people in my life.

This week taught me a great deal about what my wife needs from me, and I saw it because of the muscle of awareness that I have been building throughout these fourteen weeks. Last week, she road tripped to visit her parents while I stayed behind to watch our children. I received no less than six calls during her outbound drive, and while none of them lasted more than a few minutes, it clicked for me that this is the type of regular connection she needs during our busy lives. My pattern, of course, has been to not reach out at all during the business day while I am in the work zone. Clearly, it is the small things that make a big difference, and this is an easy daily dose I can do to let her know how much I love her. As a father, I was also more conscious of opportunities for connection and personal time this week, and it has been amazing. I’m sure there are numerous other opportunities still “hidden” from my view.

Relative to the elemental forces, much of my game has been about achieving higher levels of Sattwa, and I have been very successful in making progress on that path. In fact, I have enjoyed being detached enough to observe how the mind tries to pull me into Raja (activity, production mode, stress, crisis). By being detached, I have opened myself to new choices and have made a lot of wise ones over the last 90 days. Tamas continues to be an area of opportunity, and while I found opportunities to demonstrate more vulnerability throughout the game, there is much work to do in this area, and I know it can be a powerful personal connector when used strategically. I know that each of these forces serves a valuable purpose, and I need only remain aware to how they are playing in my life.

Much work to do, but I have made significant progress in all focal aspects during this game with the exception of Health, but I am back in the saddle there as well.

October 16th, 2007 Z Man

Progress Report

How has it gone so far I am asked to asses. Figuring that this game has been a 5 out of 10 so far—A grade of F by many standards. The health aspect of the game has overall been very good, although the past two weeks I have not been consistent. The body fat percentage has remained unchanged but I have lost some tone and heart rate gains over the past 2 weeks.

It seems I have let some business transition concerns affect my level of play. Not good–not bad but it is to be noted. I have had to continually call myself to attention as I feel myself drift during tasks.

There have been gains in other areas. The relationship with my wife and children continues to grow stronger. Business is making strides forward—in preparation of the full transition. I am falling still more often during the day.I am not sleeping as much as I should as my “task efficiency” is not optimal. There have been improvements in my ability to work more efficiently –and there is work yet to be done.

I still feel that I have not been the best partner to Lori and Rod—they have had their own distractions and I can be a stronger accountability partner but have failed in finding the key be of more service to them.

The book made zero progress for the past few weeks—but I have begun working on that again.

So—overall a 5.

Tony

1 comment October 8th, 2007 Tony A

Kumar’s Weekly Point Blog

This was a very exhausting week. My points do not reflect how I actually feel about what has occurred. I earned 47 points out of 50. By the numbers, a great week. NOt so in my mind. I did what I needed to do to get the points. It’s Sunday at 1030pm and I been unable to write the assessment or come up with my Sprint Goal. I am allowing some bad habits to form again and prevent me from moving on. Brief story, I could really use some feedback and major advice. Please forward such advice to my personal email kumarq@comcast.net. I must stress the importance this be sent to this email versus my corporate address. 3 weeks ago one of my top teams at ML sent over 3 proposals totaling $95mil in new business for the year. This would make my year and is a relationship we have worked on for a ling time. We went into over drive to get the portfolio managers in place, documents in order, and presentations ready to go. I went on vacation with an understanding we are all set. When I returned on Sunday, big meeting on Tuesday, I was informed our Taft Hartley team would be handling this case. Now they are handling all 3. After repeated calls to my manager for answers, I was told to drop it. These cases would help us end the year in the top 10, lead to hundreds of shares of company stock (price is at $91), and account for a quarter of my year to date income. I was told to drop it!!! This has truly taken me off my game and I have lost several nights of sleep. I apologize to my partner Brandon for being absent the last few days (mentally). I understand there are a lot of politics involved. We are trained to work with “Mega Advisors” and have spent hundreds of hours training to become better. I am exhausted, pissed, confused, skin rash, irritated, did I mention pissed, it feels like High School all over again.

Kumar

1 comment October 7th, 2007 Kumar Jagdeo

Week 13: Eyes Opened Wider

The points came easily this week as I achieved 58 out of 58, and I made significant strides in my environment organization as I worked through some piles that had developed, and am now left with a very short stack to process. What a powerful feeling I get from being organized.

The return to my former role has been sobering as my team missed their quarterly revenue number significantly. The process of bringing my focus back to the Americas organization has been eye opening, and I realize that it is an opportunity to re-dedicate myself to my purpose, and what I want for this team. When our Game assignment was to identify the one thing that is holding us back from living more on Purpose, mine was Consideration, and as I pulled together the autopsy on the recent quarterly miss, what stood out to me is how the basics I having been teaching the team for 18 months were the reason for our miss—time for a personal gut check. It confirmed two things:

I have to care enough about the team to push them to achieve their potential, regardless of their image of me, which means trusting my gut, and being honest with people who are not productive regardless of the consequences.
I need to get through to people in a more powerful way. My reality is I own coaching my leadership team, and they own the field team getting better. My job is not to do theirs, but I need to put my focus back on helping them close their own gaps to make the potential real, and then holding them more specifically accountable for their actions and results.

This week was also the beginning of my “sprint” to the finish, and my commitment to my Game team was that I would transform myself as a husband and father. As a part of that process, I connected with some other game partners to find out about unique things they do in these areas that they are proud of, and I started creating a list. The ideas shared were humbling, and I started to think about how to incorporate these new actions into my life. And then, I received an email from Luciano with his thoughts on falling still on what my family needs as well as telling them they are number one.

As I began to fall still and to carry this idea forward, I realize that the last thing my family needs is a longer list of tasks for me to be carrying out every day. Intellectually, I know that what my family needs most is for me to be present. This week because I spent significant time contemplating presence applied to my family, and came closer to understanding it. I see more clearly that simple concepts I have been learning to apply throughout the Game could also be game changers with family (shared journaling, reciprocity, falling still, attention). I just need to remain conscious of the moment-to-moment opportunities, and make good choices when they present themselves.

It’s going to be another great “sprint” this week, and I love how every week is fresh with insight.

Add comment October 7th, 2007 Z Man

He Finally sent in his blog

As everyone has told me, no excuses just do it! Well, finally I will just get it done. My points for last week were a combination of work and play. I spent 2 days working and 5 days on Vacation. I was able to finally enjoy a vacation and have used the game methods successfully to do so. Let me briefly explain. I am a workacholic and will find every excuse to work on a vacation. I also tend to plan the next vacation while on the first one, never in the moment. By setting exactly when I was going to send emails (no more than 15 minutes) and timeblocking/mind dumping before I left, my mind was at ease. It was great. hanging out, drinking, gambling, working out, spa, dolphins, shopping, eating, eating, eating very well. I did not feel guilty. With that said, I earned 52 out of 50 points and believe this has been game changing for me and my relationships.

Kumar.

Add comment October 1st, 2007 Kumar Jagdeo

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